28 Jun 2019 One third of Brits (31%) have borrowed money from family and friends; yet more than half (53%) do not expect to pay the money back according to new research by Lloyds Bank.
Part of Lloyds Bank’s ‘How Britain Lives’ study, the UK-wide analysis from YouGov of 2,018 adults also found that one in five (22%) are borrowing money from friends and family just to get by, using the cash to cover day-to-day living costs.
Brits are most likely to borrow money from the Bank of Mum and Dad (25%); borrowing an average of £4,008. Meanwhile, one in 20 (5%) have borrowed from siblings and 4% from friends, with just 3% seeking financial support from grandparents.
Almost half (46%) of those that borrow money say they feel guilty for doing so, as they hoped to provide for themselves, and nearly one in ten (8%) admitted that the borrowing of money has caused tension in their family.
However, six in ten (61%) Brits say they are happy to lend money to family and friends, with just one in ten (8%) feeling annoyed about lending to loved ones. Those in the South West (67%), and the South East (66%) appear to be the most generous regions and are happiest to offer a loan in times of need.
London is shown to be less likely to hand out the cash than the rest of the UK, with only half (50%) of Londoners happy to lend money to a family member. Londoners are also twice as likely to be annoyed about being asked for a loan (20%), compared to 8% across the UK. The East Midlands are far more relaxed about lending money, with no respondents saying it left them feeling annoyed.
This comes against the backdrop of the Lloyds Bank M-word campaign to tackle the stigma of talking about money, which found that that people don’t talk about money with their loved ones. More than two fifths (44%) of people have avoided discussions about money and a quarter (25%) have lied to family and friends about their personal finances.
Martin King, Head of Customer Support at Lloyds Bank said: “We feel much more comfortable lending than borrowing in Britain; with half of us feeling guilty when we do have to ask for a bit of extra help. It’s important to keep talking with our family and friends about money concerns, as it can help to have some support and hear another perspective.
“We’ve recently created the Lloyds Bank M-word online hub to provide a series of tips to help people feel more confident in opening up about money worries.”
STARTING CONVERSATIONS ABOUT MONEY WITH FRIENDS OR FAMILY
Conversations about money can be difficult, especially when you are facing financial problems. Most of us don’t feel very comfortable talking about our finances with our loved ones, let alone asking them for help.
The Lloyds Bank M-word online hub has a whole range of information to support opening up about money. Take a look at the steps below on how to start a conversation.
Go over your finances and understand what you need help with – It is easy to sometimes feel so overwhelmed by your finances that you end up ignoring the situation altogether, so why not ask a family member to look through your finances with you?
Gathering all the information you need will help you understand exactly what the situation is. Once you’ve established all the facts, working out a plan will be much easier. For example, if you are struggling to get a deposit together for a home, it will be easier to start the conversation if you know how much you’ll need to borrow.
Be prepared to talk, but also be prepared to listen – Understand and acknowledge the other person’s point of view. It’s only by listening that you’ll be clear on what’s important to the other person and be able to make a plan together.
If you are asking for financial support, it is understandable that the other person might have some questions and concerns. Clear and open communication will help ensure there are no disagreements further down the line.
Feelings around money can be strong, but they don’t have to lead to arguments – It’s not unusual for families to argue about money. There can be a lot of intense feelings, but the important thing is to have a calm conversation about the issues. Start by telling them how you feel, rather than what you want.
Turning to a friend or family member for help could also impact wider relationships, for example if other friends or family members see it as favoritism. If you’re borrowing from a parent, it might be a good idea to call a family meeting to discuss the terms openly.
Make a plan together – Reach an agreement about what to do next and keep talking about it. Occasionally the relief of having talked about money is so overwhelming that people don’t mention it again and don’t really convert words into action.
A written plan or agreement is always a good idea. Break down exactly what the plan is, including details like when you will start to pay them back and how you plan to make the payment.